Category Archives: People

The Lives of Others

So yesterday I happened upon two blogs belonging to people I’ve known who, through divorce, were removed from my life. The first one belongs to the ex-wife of a friend of Dean’s. I was spacing out and reading some woman related Washington Post blogs when I found a guest post by this woman. The content of the blog as well as her name made me realize it was probably her and I followed a link to her personal blog where she discusses topics ranging from her new marriage to martinis. I always wished we were better friends – and not just friends when our husbands got together. Perhaps it was the fact that she is more than a decade my junior is the reason we never became friends. I was sad when she and her husband divorced, but not in the least surprised.

The second blog was found by clicking on the “links” link under a video I uploaded to YouTube about a year ago. It lead me to a blog by a 60-something man who used to live in Elgin but now lives in Northern Wisconsin. The names in the sidebar calendar led me to deduce that he is the ex-husband of one of my mother’s best friends. In fact this man was at my wedding. I called my mom and she confirmed that he moved to Wisconsin.

So, in some ways, this Internet, this huge time sucker and distraction maker can make the world a smaller place.

Of course I’ve known that for years.

76. Just forget the world

Clare has a little over two years left at home – she’s a Sophomore this year. I don’t dwell on the day she leaves for college, but it’s always there, in the back of my mind. That’s why I don’t mind driving her to school a few times a week – it gives us some good in-the-car time where we can be ourselves (I’m sometimes still in my pajamas, much to Clare’s amusement) and interact on a basic mother-daughter level.

The other day, when I was driving her to school, a song came on the radio and we both exclaimed “I like this song!” Clare didn’t know the name of it, and neither did I, but since we both liked it I got in the longer drop-off line so we could finish listening to the song. Clare noticed and thanked me.

Damn, I’m gonna miss her.

Oh, the song was Chasing Cars by Snow Patrol.